The greatest heuristic of someone's understanding of relationships, including the one between collective and the individual, is really their love life, and their sexual life. This idea that you can “solve” human relationships within society, purely with your mind and the theories it produces, without having a beautiful love and sexual life yourself is such a load of bullshit. 7
There is no smaller collective than the one made of two people, and if that tiny, tiny collective, of which you have the most control over, and which provides the most bliss when it works well, is already dysfunctional — which includes sexual repression and distancing yourself from your partner so that you never notice problems — then clearly there is something wrong with your life, and the ideas which are downstream of it.
Some people might call this an ad hominem, but at some point you have to take a look at the fruits, or lack thereof, produced by a tree. Because what else are you going to examine? The validity of ideas? People only listen to the ideas that reaffirm their emotional inner world and the echo chamber they live in. This includes the idea that we can examine ideas independently of our lives. This idea about ideas has a great emotional appeal, because it means that one can completely relinquish any form of responsibility, and give up a way of life that reaches outside the shell of self, i.e. a life aligned with love.
4 See The Surrogate of Sport from his book Ad Radicem.
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2024-06-21